Ohhhhhh here we go friends! I’m gonna unleash my feelings just a little bit about manners. What’s the first thing that comes to mind when you hear the word manners? Do you picture yourself at the dinner table with your napkin in your lap, no elbows on the table, and you let your host or whomever cooked the meal have the first bite?
Or do you picture well mannered, circa 1950’s doll- like children with their petticoats, little white gloves, Maryjanes, and clutch purse standing sweetly posing for the picture taken after church on a Sunday?
Better yet, do you hear “yes ma’am, no ma’am, please and thank you” when you think of manners? How about looking someone in the eyes and offering a FIRM handshake when you meet a new acquaintance? The firm handshake is going the way of the dinosaur…I can’t stand it when I get a floppy, soggy, lifeless handshake (happens with dudes too). Be forewarned…I’ll all but crack your bones with my handshake! It’s simply how I was brought up…with manners.
How about social manners? You know those simple situations when you are invited somewhere with friend number 1 and ten minutes later you get a way better offer from friend number 2? What do you do? There’s no questioning as far as I’m concerned….you go with friend number one because they asked you first. No white lies, no making up an excuse…you go with friend number one because it’s the right thing to do.
How about when your plans get canceled for a fun outing and then you see that the person you had those fun plans with is now out having fun with someone else? Even better when it involves your child being left out? I get it….go with your better option. Clearly that’s what works for you. Come ON people! Where are your manners?
I know I’m not the only one who has manners but sometimes I feel a little put off by other people’s moral compass. I know I’m coming in hot on this one and to be standing on my perfect pedestal way up here in the land of ‘I’m never wrong about anything’ might seem flat out judgemental….you’re absolutely right! However, I’m a little more than peeved though and I get the feeling others can relate to what I’m saying here.
Aren’t there basic manners that we’ve all been taught about what’s right and wrong? Have we forgotten our manners or do we just come up with our own once we become adults? I pride myself on teaching my girls the manners I was taught as a child. It’s such a beautiful way to share my childhood with my girls by teaching them the things I was taught. Nothing better than a living example to show your babies. It’s so frustrating though to feel like I have to teach my daughters to constantly take the high road when dealing with situations and friends.
I’m tired of taking the high road too sometimes. Aren’t we all a little tired of it? Don’t you just want to scream “Where are your manners you idiot?!”
I know…I won’t scream that at anyone…it’s bad manners. But I can blog it😂! Love and belief everyone! Forgive this flamingo tonight and her ruffled feathers please. We’ve all been there!